Painful Forced-Marriage Custom

Decisions regarding life are passion-oriented, or sometimes accountability-oriented. A grown up has the right to express his or her own wishes and interests, YESs or NOs and such. Sadly, regardless of all these socially relevant ideas, there are countries where these individuals are deprived off their rights, particularly India! Sadder when I hear that, FAMILY MEMBERS are the main opponents for these individuals. Forceful marriages or alliances are painful, trust me. Especially if they arise from the very own family! That's a point where you lose the hope that irrespective of anything, your family will stay with your likes and dislikes. Dear above mentioned families, aren't you aware that the Constitution provides the Right to Freedom to EVERY citizen of India? EVERY means EVERY! 

Since childhood, even in movies we have watched a girl of a family entering the so-called WEDDING AGE, and the elders of the family search for some good guy without the knowledge of the bride-to-be! If someone interrogates, the answer is "She will obey what we select for her to do and she is supposed to". Ridiculous. This paragraph is not about degrading all those elders and grandparents, but to understand what a person's life could be if she lives with a complete stranger in a house for like, FOREVER! It is random stuff to say that they will be comfortable after some weeks. They will or sometimes they won't! No one can be sure, am I right?

The worst part is that young girls are forced into marriages at the age when they don't even know what a marriage means. Pictures of young girls with their heads down wearing the red dress and walking sad make me feel outrageous. At least, give them the opportunity to learn if they wish to! It's like throwing her into the deep sea and telling her to learn swimming, haha! Is it meant to be funny or necessary? Imagine the condition of the girl who has to take care of the house, husband, food, family members and many more just the next day onward! PLEASE DO THINK IT THROUGH YOUR HEART. 

If there are parents who read this, please consider that your child is a human like you and he or she has dislikes too! I write this for both girls and boys. However it is a necessity to highlight the issue regarding girls because they are the people who get complete ignorance when it comes to topics like marriages(their own marriages!). If someone doesn't want to get married or he or she wants to get married late, let them! The myth that marrying will make a person more mature is supposed to be outdated, please! And, it's ridiculous that girls are to be married at an early age according to the family and society but she is not supposed to go to learn at that age! I mean, marriage is something huge for a young girl but the family cannot stand the fact that she goes outside!! :)

In India, the ratio of education between males and females says it all. Only 53.7% of the girls are literate while 75.3% of the males are literate!!! We would like to see 100% literacy for all the genders and we have not even achieved a 90 for either of them!!!! Is this what makes you happy when you get your girl married without her interest? Are you really happy that she doesn't work? Are you proud of the fact that she is not sent to school? Do you smile when she cries inside the confined, isolated, strongly built four walls? Come on, think differently now! It is 2020 and the people living now must not be like the stereotype promoters of the past. Embracing tradition is okay, but make sure the same doesn't ruin the heart of your children!

The questions I asked above with fury are not only mine, but from the whole good humankind. Be it before or after marriage, girls are to be inside houses and check whether dust or dirt is there at home. Why do we differentiate them? Nature has human beings, which consists of some genders, that's all! What one can do, might be something undoable by another. Just don't be judgemental and bossy about it. Children expect friendship and understanding from their parents. All are unique. They must be given their own rights. Let the children choose their people with love and comfort. 

In short, it can lead to really bad outcomes when you force your child into a marriage. I've heard about some of my friends whose family wants them to get married after a certain level of education. Can't even accept the fact that they don't care about their children's ambitions. Seems like a family's reputation lies in the average age of their married daughters! I mean, is that even a PARAMETER! If you feel your children or young girls and boys being drawn towards bad deeds, TALK with them. Force, pressure and early marriage will not make them any better human beings. Thanks a lot if you think about it.